Rights of Husband and Wife upon one another

Rights of Husband and Wife upon one another

⚘1. MAN’S RIGHTS UPON HIS WIFE
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⚘2. WOMAN’S RIGHTS UPON HER HUSBAND
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1. HUSBAND’S  RIGHTS UPON HIS WIFE
A mother’s advice to her daughter before marriage
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1) Beware of excessive jealousy as it’s the door to divorce
2) Beautify your face with much wudue
3) Submit to him with conviction. Be obedient by hearing his words (men usually like obedient women)
4) Take more care of where he looks👀
and smells (He should always look at beautiful views and smell good scents)
5) Take more care of his time of food and time of sleep (hunger and sleep disorder are triggers anger
6 & 7) Keep his money. Take care of the kids. Utmost solution is to live in economic way. And manage well the education of children.
9&10) Never disobey his orders. Never reveal his secrets. As if you do anger him by doing so, you can’t assure that he won’t betray you.
🔊Never be happy when he is melancholic
🔊Never be sad when he is happy.
11) If you see him angry. Try to satisfy him
12) Don’t complain or blame too much as that’s detestable
13) treat him like an elder kid. Always use sweet words as that makes him happy
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Sheikh Said Ziyani adds:
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14) Never say my marriage to you made me leave my family!!!
15) Never talk badly on his family
16) Never humiliate him in front of others
17) Never injure his honour even by joking
18) Never compare him with others (in terms of money knowledge etc)
19) Never deprive him of sexual intercourse
20) Use sweet words that is the halal magic
21) Never argue with him especially when he is angry
22) Don’t remind him of his defects
23) When you want to go out
Ask his permission
24) When he gets weary on worship remind him of the reward of Allah. Remind him of Salat…
25) Don’t forget to always meet him at the door..kiss and don’t meet him with problems once he steps in
All the above tips are embedded in the following hadeeth
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⚘If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes.”
●Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Ibn Ḥibbān 4252
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“I heard the Messenger of Allah say: ‘Any woman who dies when her husband is pleased with her, will enter Paradise.’
●Sunan Ibn Majah Book: 9, Hadith: 1927
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2. WIFE’S RIGHTS UPON HER HUSBAND
Some rights for your wife upon you
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A. 👉🏼TEACH HER AQEEDATU TAWHEED
👉LINK HER HEART TO
🌼RELY ONLY ON ALLAH
🌼DEPEND ONLY ON ALLAH
🌼ASK HELP ONLY FROM ALLAH
🌼SACRIFICE ONLY TO HIM
🌼BELIEVE ONLY HIM CAN HELP CURE, SUSTAIN ETC
These are more tips:
B. Justice and fair treatment
I.e; If you buy anything for urself, buy for her too.
🌱. But your mom first then your wife
C. ⚘. When one of you is angry the other must not speak. Try to change the subject hide or indulge in any other activity like (going out 😂🏃♀️🏃♂️)
D. ⚘Praise her in front of her parents and family
E.⚘Narrate stories how you love her or how your love started. This will feel her proud😊
F⚘Mention her good qualities in front of others
G⚘Praise her food even not good bc thru this way she will make more good meals. OTHERWISE you failed.  Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him never despised his wifes or their food. IF HE DID NOT LIKE HE DIDN’T EAT BUT NEVER WHINED ( fussed)
H⚘DEFEND HER AS wifes like that
I⚘Praise her beauty much. If she isn’t beautiful you can lie🤣🤣
J⚘Be strong in her eyes not a coward
K⚘Buy her real flowers or roses from time to time
L⚘Spray her parfum in your room and tell her i like it
M⚘Eat from where she ate on her glass or plate
N⚘Have bath together
O⚘Tell her I LOVE YOU BABY. YOU ARE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL IN MY EYES. But pay attention to practice this word in reality as this word necessitates affirmative actions
P⚘YET, ADVISE her always not to listen to music nor watch movies. Instead teach her Quran and Sunnah thru lectures by well known scholars like Nouman Khan, Mufti Menk, Muhammad Salah etc
Q⚘Practice Islam in reality she will learn from that more
R⚘Use body language with her. Try to have much fun with her. CREATE STORIES BTWN ONE ANOTHER LIKE CODES THAT ONLY YOU CAN UNDERSTAND (Private language)
S⚘Whenever you go out KISS. whenever you come in KISS . but don’t forget the Invocations in your life that will devils away from you
T⚘All what mentioned above is void within Invocations especially of the morning and afternoon and daily ones.
U⚘Switch on Quran especially Surat El Baqara each 3 days
V⚘Treat her brothers and sistsrs good. Buy them gifts when possible
W⚘Lastly. Remind her that she will be your wife in paradise, too.
X⚘Reduce your orders to her. i.e try sometimes or wash the dishes – to sew your clothes cook from time to time to her even — some salad or tea would be so nice in her eyes.
Y⚘Take care of your beauty too. Don’t wait for her to look like a queen💃 when you look like a…🏃🤣
That’s because Allah Sabhanahu wa taala says
2:228
And women shall have rights similar to the rights against them, according to what is equitable; but men have a degree (of advantage) over them. And Allah is Exalted in Power, Wise.
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Compiled by Abo Ayoub
References:
*Kitab Tuhfat Al Arouss
*Said Ziyani Website
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IIN 2019